Stopping a Cyber Bully 101

by Barbara J. Feldman on February 23, 2010

Cyber bullies have become commonplace on the internet these days, and, as a result, not everyone feels safe when they are online. If you are dealing with a cyber bully, it’s time to take steps to stop them.

Know your rights

In order to stop a cyber bully you first have to know your rights. It is your right not to be threatened and harassed, and if someone is doing so, even if it is with the anonymity that the web provides, you have the right to have it stopped.

Know the way cyber bullies work

Cyber bullies often harass their victims on chat rooms and through social networking sites. They will typically follow you around the internet and bother you no matter where you are. They may also enlist others in their attempts to harass or embarrass you. Knowing what cyber bullying is, and how it happens, gives you the power not only to recognize it, but to avoid it. You can only stop cyber bullying if you know what it is.

Report them

Reporting a cyber bully in a great 1st step for dealing with, and ultimately stopping, one. If the bullying is taking place while you are on a public site, report the behavior to the site administrator. In addition, if you are at school, or on a private network, notify the school, or network provider, of the problem is occurring. If the bullying is severe, threats are specific or if there are multiple incidences, report the person to the police. Many police departments now have entire units that do nothing but investigating cyber bullying. Remember that cyber bullying is defined as bullying that takes place electronically between minors. If an adult is involved it becomes a much more serious charge.

Block them

If a cyber bully is harassing you, the best thing you can do is to block them. If you are on a public chat site, where you can’t block them, see if the site administrator would be willing to block or remove them. If you are on a site where you can block them, block them. For example, if they are bothering you on your Facebook page, simply delete them as a friend, make your page private so that people can’t send you messages or view your profile, and add the person to your block list.

Get help

If you are being cyber bullied, it is up to you to get help. Tell a parent or a teacher. Tell someone so that the problem can be attended to, and you can get help dealing with the psychological effects of being bullied. It can be extremely helpful to have an adult on your side, especially if the bullying is not singular in nature, but is a group effort at humiliation or threats.

You must take action to stop a cyber bully, and let them know that you are not going to put up with it. If you threaten to report them to the police, follow through.

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Feldman, Barbara. "Stopping a Cyber Bully 101." Surfnetkids. Feldman Publishing. 23 Feb. 2010. Web. 13 Oct. 2014. <http://www.surfnetkids.com/tech/1484/stopping-a-cyber-bully-101/ >.


  • tdc

    report it and keep reporting it until someone believes it and listens to you.

  • ham

    Hey, harrison, this may seem like a simple solution, but tell someone and keep telling them until somone listens and will help you take action against them to stop them. It can be stopped tell a counsellor the principal a police officer the local news a adult you trust and even if they don’t believe you keep telling until someone does. you don’t deserve this and it can stop be brave and keep reporting reporting reporting! Tell your parents, or your aunt uncle etc… They may seem tough and strong(the bullies) but really they are insecure people who want to put others down to make themselves feel good. you stay calm and report it. God loves you and you are important to him and to me!

  • harrison

    Yep I get bullied at school and have been for so long I don’t think i can ask a teacher for help as its almost
    Become the norm. I mean last week I got stabbed by a pen and was bleeding on my neck and front and I went to the head of year desk to ask for the head teacher and she was in a meeting, the lady said what’s the problem and I said “don’t worry its nothing” and I feel so bad that I didn’t say anything and he stabbed me right where a cctv camera was over looking but I feel ive missed my opportunity now and I feel bad hoof to school. What can I do as I am shy to tell as almost 50 students treat me in this unrespectable way and even my friends say in a conversation I’m dumb and this is because i forced to react within this manner. People think I am unpopular and other things and don’t stick up for myself when I do out of school and am very famous due to my likings on YouTube and this is my only hope for carrying on. What can I do?

    Kind regards,
    Harrison