{"id":1742,"date":"2011-02-17T08:58:27","date_gmt":"2011-02-17T16:58:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.preschoolfun.net\/?p=1742"},"modified":"2011-02-17T08:58:27","modified_gmt":"2011-02-17T16:58:27","slug":"what-to-do-when-your-preschooler-is-lying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.surfnetkids.com\/early\/1742\/what-to-do-when-your-preschooler-is-lying","title":{"rendered":"What to Do When Your Preschooler is Lying"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If your preschooler has entered a stage where everything she says is a lie, take heart, there are things that you can do. Here is what to do when your preschooler is lying-<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Just      humor her-<\/strong>This may seem like exactly the wrong thing to do, since you don\u2019t      want to promote lying, but it is extremely important to keep this in      perspective. Preschoolers lie for a number of very harmless reasons, from      exercising their creativity to really believing what they are saying. The      act of creating a fantasy and retelling it is a normal part of your      child\u2019s development. If there are no serious consequences of the lying,      some of it you can just write off. Keep in mind that this technique also      works well if your child develops an imaginary friend. Having an imaginary      friend is a normal part of a child\u2019s development and shows that they have      a great imagination. Even if your child blames their own bad behavior on      their imaginary friend, you still shouldn\u2019t worry. Imaginary friends play      an important part, in the emotional development of your child. They allow      a preschooler to safely figure out who they really want to be.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Try      not to accuse-<\/strong>When you must confront your child about lying its important      not to try and not accuse them. You should carefully consider what you say,      so that you are encouraging your child to confess and not deny. It\u2019s      important to give them a safe place to tell you the truth. When they see      that they can they will gradually rely more on the truth, and less on      lying.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Show      some sympathy-<\/strong>Think of the reality of your preschooler\u2019s word, everyone is      taller and telling you what to do. It\u2019s easy to see why preschoolers feel      out of control and are quick to shift the blame to someone else. If your      preschooler doesn\u2019t want to confess, then help her to understand that instead      of just trying to use lies to make a situation go away, its better to      confront the situation, and help make it right. You can point out a      wrongdoing to your preschooler, (in a gentle manner), but remember to      praise her when she confesses up to it. Over time she will decide that      telling the truth works much better then lying.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Explain      why honest matters-<\/strong>While your preschooler may possibly already know that      lying is not good, her development is not extensive enough to understand      all of the moral ramifications of lying. This is where the adults in her      life matter. Adults are the ones who must communicate the need of being      able to be trusted, and help the child understand that there can be      serious consequences for not telling the truth. There are several books      that can help you illustrate this very important principle, while still      keeping your toddler\u2019s attention and entertaining her, at the same time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Go      with a positive approach<\/strong>-Keep in mind that if you want to create a safe      place, for your preschooler to tell you the truth, you will need to do it      in a positive manner. It will not inspire her to tell you the truth if you      vent your anger at her. You should understand that if you do respond in      anger, most children this age will make sure not to repeat the same      behavior again. In other words, your preschooler may be too afraid to tell      you the truth. Keep in mind that besides being totally inappropriate a      harsh punishment for lying, is very likely to backfire, creating a child      who either rebels, or has an overly active conscience. Instead you should      make sure that you are giving praise to your child, when she does tell the      truth. Using reinforcement that is positive is much more likely to bring      about the results in behavior that you are really wanted.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If your preschooler has entered a stage where everything she says is a lie, take heart, there are things that you can do. Here is what to do when your preschooler is lying- Just humor her-This may seem like exactly &#8230;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.surfnetkids.com\/early\/1742\/what-to-do-when-your-preschooler-is-lying\">[Continue]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[34],"tags":[406,103,740,741,640,407,748,749,112,581,746,559,750],"class_list":{"0":"post-1742","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-tips","7":"tag-auto","8":"tag-child","9":"tag-child-development","10":"tag-children","11":"tag-development","12":"tag-draft","13":"tag-emotional-development","14":"tag-imaginary-friend","15":"tag-preschooler","16":"tag-preschoolers","17":"tag-preschoolers-and-lying","18":"tag-truth","19":"tag-what-to-do-about-lying","20":"entry"},"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.2 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>What to Do When Your Preschooler is Lying &#187; Early Childhood Education \u00bb Surfnetkids<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"If your preschooler has entered a stage where everything she says is a lie, take heart, there are things that you can do. 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